When a client comes for counseling regarding their anger issues, it is usually a result of underlying feelings that are too painful to express. Anger is a secondary emotion, often used to cover up issues like anxiety, depression, shame, etc… We feel more in control being angry than we do being vulnerable.
Anger counselling will teach you how to get in touch with your feelings. It will provide you with various calming and coping mechanisms that help to reduce anger and control both your feelings and actions.
When anger has become a go-to emotion, it takes time and persistence to overcome. Through counselling, a client is able to progress and develop strategies that allows them to be in control.
My Method
I handle anger management using Talk-therapy and Focusing. When dealing with a clients’ anger issues, I gently delve into the sensitive areas to find out what their triggers and what the underlying issues are. I then examine how their anger is expressed.
When the client feels safe, emotions are released and this allows them to get in touch with their deep-rooted feelings. Once the client has let go of their underlying issues, anger disappears in a natural way.
Why Come For Anger Counseling
• When you cannot control your angry feelings
• When you constantly feel frustrated and irritable
• When you regularly lash out at others
• When you cannot express your anger in a healthy way
• When you bottle your feelings until they erupt
• Your temper causes problems at work and in relationships
The Benefits of Anger Counseling
• Learning how to respond calmly rather than emotionally
• Managing your inner dialogue
• Becoming assertive and productive while maintaining your professionalism
• Identifying your triggers and understanding the reason behind them
• Learning patience
• Identifying and overcoming your anger issues
How Does Anger Surface?
• Exasperation
• Rage
• Irritation
• Humiliation
• Annoyance
• Indignation
• Frustration
Dangers of Unmanaged Anger
Anger left unmanaged can spill into multiple areas of a person’s life, and affect their career and relationships. More so, it can become detrimental and result in physical and mental health issues such as:
• Self-medication
• Eating disorders
• Self-harm
• Depression/Anxiety
• Low self-esteem
• High blood pressure
• Alienating loved ones
How To Keep Anger Under Control
• Avoid people, places and situations that might trigger your anger
• Exercise
• Deep breathing
• Take a break
• Take a walk
• Count slowly to ten
• Stretch or massage tension area
When anger has become a habit, it takes time and persistence to get to the root of your triggers. As you progress in your therapy sessions, you will see that the strategies we developed have put you in a place of control.
